Next Time Someone Asks You What Motherhood Is Like – Show Them This

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Next time someone asks you what motherhood is like tell them it’s like this pan.

I could show you the new, shiny metal one that I have in my cabinet. It has no scratches and looks like it’s never been used. Because it rarely has. It’s the Instagram of pans. If I wanted to show you how my children and I bake cookies at Christmas time, I would show you that pan.

But, this is my go to pan. My every day pan.

It’s the one that gets the job done. It is well browned, scratched, and way past it’s prime. I’m quite certain I should throw it away. It’s hideous! But, it’s also durable and reliable and I’m not afraid of it.

Afraid, you ask?

Yes, afraid.

I get afraid of new, shiny things. I feel like I have to keep them that way. Kind of like the pressure a new mom feels to do everything perfect – to be the perfect mom.

But, this pan has been in the fire and has the markings to show for it. It’s messy, aged, and worn. I’m sure at one point it was new and shiny, but I can’t recall it. Kind of like how I can hardly remember how things were before I was a mother and I only had myself to care about.

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I’m sure at one point I cared about keeping that pan new and shiny. Surely, I scrubbed and tried hard to keep the stains away. But, one day turned into the next and I guess I let go. I stopped caring so much about appearances.

Perhaps it got too hard to care anymore.

Too hard to keep it looking perfect.

Perhaps I had a job to do and couldn’t be bothered by the looks of things.

I don’t recall, but I’m sure this felt a little like freedom. There’s much freedom in resigning yourself to the fact that life will bring with it stains that can’t be scrubbed away. In knowing those stains don’t define you rather show that you’ve been hard at work.

And oh boy, is motherhood work. But this pan reminds me that I was made for the oven and so were you.

You were fashioned to withstand the flames and pressure that comes with motherhood. You are being put to the fire, but it’s not breaking you – it’s refining you. It’s only making you better able to stand the heat.

You feel worn out and aged, BUT it’s also making you strangely beautiful. No one will be able to look at you and say she didn’t do her job. That shiny new coat of motherhood was placed there in hopes that one day you would be able to look back and see how far you’ve come.

I think we should give them away at baby showers. Not some new, shiny pan that sits cold in the cabinet, but one that gave of itself despite the stains and look of ruin. Despite the fact that it can no longer lay flat on a counter, but is crooked and bent.

That way expecting mothers would know that true love doesn’t look like perfection, but a well-used, ugly, old, scratched-up, glorious brown pan.

This post originally appeared on The Messy Christian

Next time someone asks you what motherhood is like tell them it's like this pan.I could show you the new, shiny metal…

Posted by The Messy Christian on Tuesday, July 31, 2018

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Sherry is a blogger and writer who desires to encourage others in their journey of parenting, faith, and life in general. She wants others to know that we can be honest about our mess as we strive to live a Jesus life. Her stories are insightful, humorous, and full of truth. Sherry is a contributing writer for Her View From Home, an online lifestyle magazine for women. Her writing has also been published on Hahas for Hoohas, Love What Matters, Ellen Nation, and Little Things.

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    • Thank you Katie ? I hope this post encourages moms to be ok with a little wear and tear!! It just shows how much we give of ourselves and that’s a badge of honor not shame!

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