Meet Hot Mess Maven Jeba Pandian

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Jeba Pandian is employed by a very precocious 7 year old, her daughter and co author Sophia. They live in Texas with the best husband and father, Anbu. Anbu and Jeba had their first daughter, Isabella, in 2007. A premature blessing, she passed away after 5 days in the NICU.  In 2009 came the best gift ever, Sophia. Sophia had a thousand and one questions about Isabella, why she left and what she was doing, so, My Sister is My Guardian Angel was born. We know that angels come into our lives to deliver a message and Isabella’s brief life has taught us so much in the last 9 years. Although her life was momentary, the impact will last a lifetime.

If you are unwillingly a part of our club we offer you this hope, that your baby came to give you a message and now is assigned to you as your guardian angel, happy and whole in heaven.

Do not lose heart. Do not give up. There is hope.

Jeba is here with you aon your journey as the Hot Mess Maven for Loss and Grief Mom + Dads in the connect+ groups.

Follow Jeba on her website at myangelbooks.com and Facebook

5 COMMENTS

  1. I myself lost a child in 1991. Derek was born full term on November 8,1991. He was amazing. I always wanted a boy and after two beautiful daughters I now had my son. However I never knew the words, ” it doesn’t matter as long as their healthy, ” would ring through! You see Derek was born with a heart defect called Hypoplastic Left Heart, and no Aorta. He was gorgeous. Normal in size and weight. To look at him, you would have never known he was so ill. It wasn’t until a few hours after he was born the doctors begun hearing a heart murmur. His oxygen rate was failing and they were telling us he was going to Childens Hospital in Boston. He was four days old going for the first of many surgeries. However this was Bypass on the heart of my four day old son. Well needless to say I was helpless, my baby was so sick and there was nothing I could do to help him. I put my trust in the wonderful team at Children’s and the NICU staff and God to help him. He was strong and so brave. He under went two more surgeries before December 8, 1991. That was the day God took my baby boy and gave him wings. From that day fouth I think of him each and every day. The hole is still in my heart but does not bleed and hurt so painfully as it once did but its there. I don’t think anyone ever gets over losing a child no matter how they lose them. We just learn to deal with the pain and move forward. To all of us parents out there learning to deal with the grief of losing a child, I’m so very sorry. Together we can find the strength to carry on. Thank you for reading my story. R.I.P. Derek Jeffery 11/8/91 – 11/5/91

  2. I myself lost a child in 1991. Derek was born full term on November 8,1991. He was amazing. I always wanted a boy and after two beautiful daughters I now had my son. However I never knew the words, ” it doesn’t matter as long as their healthy, ” would ring through! You see Derek was born with a heart defect called Hypoplastic Left Heart, and no Aorta. He was gorgeous. Normal in size and weight. To look at him, you would have never known he was so ill. It wasn’t until a few hours after he was born the doctors begun hearing a heart murmur. His oxygen rate was failing and they were telling us he was going to Childens Hospital in Boston. He was four days old going for the first of many surgeries. However this was Bypass on the heart of my four day old son. Well needless to say I was helpless, my baby was so sick and there was nothing I could do to help him. I put my trust in the wonderful team at Children’s and the NICU staff and God to help him. He was strong and so brave. He under went two more surgeries before December 5, 1991. That was the day God took my baby boy and gave him wings. From that day fouth I think of him each and every day. The hole is still in my heart but does not bleed and hurt so painfully as it once did but its there. I don’t think anyone ever gets over losing a child no matter how they lose them. We just learn to deal with the pain and move forward. To all of us parents out there learning to deal with the grief of losing a child, I’m so very sorry. Together we can find the strength to carry on. Thank you for reading my story. R.I.P. Derek Jeffery 11/8/91 – 12/5/91

    • Thank you so much for sharing Derek and How beautifully you have written about him. And you are right. Although our pain is still there it just looks different as we go through our different chapters in life. Sweet boy. Always in our hearts and never forgotten. Sending hugs

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